There is an ongoing debate and, shall I say, “Marital Feud”, between my estranged husband and myself which deeply disturbs me but, moreover, frustrates me to no end. I would like to know what others feel about this. Am I really wrong?
He believes that I have sickeningly invaded his right to privacy and also that I have “destroyed the sanctity of marriage” by posting blogs which detail specific experiences in our marriage since I started this blog last spring. There have been very few posts which have been specifically about him, but there were two in particular which really chapped his hide and he bullied me in to removing them: one was about his expectation when we married that I change football teams as a fan of my family’s San Francisco 49ers preference to his Oakland Raiders. He was enraged when I described his goading of my favorite team for the duration of our marriage and made him look like a huge prick, which wasn’t my intention at all. The other problematic blog post which I eventually deleted was about his treatment of me one Saturday last July when I missed methadone dosing two days in a row, leading to my legs becoming numb and rendering me unable to walk.
He was so upset over these posts that he begged his entire extended family to boycott me by blocking me on Facebook. Isnt that reaction of his-turning his entire family against me- just as damaging to me, if not more damaging, than my posting of blogs which he felt invaded his privacy?
I explained to him..or at least I tried to, that my blog has no followers from either of our families. I will admit, however, that I had forgotten my blog posted to Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn as well, which I didnt really think much of since I never have comments or feedback from any of my 500+ Facebook friends, 70 Twitter followers or 89 LinkedIn connections. I have since removed my blog’s connection to all popular social media sites. That seemed like a fair solution. Not that I should stop posting on MY blog as I see fit, when I see fit, however.
Am I being selfish? That was never my intention, as I always felt I was blogging to complete strangers and really, who cares what strangers know about me, or about my life, right?